When your stomach is churning, your therapist is busy and you're too stressed to journal.
What’s Inside:
The Emergency Somatic Reset: Immediate instructions to lower your guilt from "Spiralling" to "Chill".
The "Neutralizer" Scripts: Reframes to read out loud when you face the silent treatment, long faces, or the fear that you're "ruining the relationship."
FREE BONUS: The Deep-Dive Worksheets: Once you are calm, use these to track your somatic symptoms and dismantle the lie that your worth is transactional .
If you want to get better at saying "no," you have to learn to deal with what comes next: the guilt trips, the silent treatment, and the heavy weight of their disappointment.
That "gut-punch" guilt you feel is normal, but it isn’t rooted in fact . It’s based on intergenerational conditioning that told you your only value is in being selfless . If you don’t have a plan for the aftermath, your own negative self-talk will make you never want to set a boundary again.
There is no medal for life-long self-sacrifice. Only pain and resentment.
There is another way. This tool helps you dismantle that conditioning by first settling the physical spiral and then injecting "software updates"—new teachings that help you honor your own needs .